GROUPS OF FRIENDS ARE NOT GANGS:

ARE GANGS IN SCHOOLS?

These things are generally speaking, within reason.

HAS YOUR CHILD COME HOME AND SAID: “I found a gang today”. It's a misunderstanding and MUST be cleared up, right away, immediately:

Say to the child, gently yet firmly, or words to the effect: “Do you talk of a group of friends, or a real gang? Gangs are bad, evil, and wrong: on purpose. Your gang at school is probably NOT a gang, and is a group of friends. Are those new friends of yours, NICE?” And if the child says “yes, they are good to myself” then it's true, around 99.8% of the time, truly, for most young people, they talk of a new GROUP OF FRIENDS. Correct your child, gently but firmly: groups of friends are NOT real gangs. Do NOT use that word “gangs” unless they are truly evil, bad, wrong, or on hallucinogenic drugs.

When you have finished talking to the child, PLEASE: Listen to them, if they want to continue to talk, ask questions, or to say they understand. Listen. Your child is probably quite wise: “out of the mouths of babes, comes WISDOM”. It is due to their innocence and other good qualities or virtues, that also need awakening in them, further, often. Talents are often instilled. If you tell a little child: “You will never succeed at arithmetic” or “You are stupid”, awhile later, even days, often months later: the child has worse and worse grades or marks at arithmetic; and will say: “but, I'm stupid” and be very, very unhappy. The right thing to say could be: “You need to learn more arithmetic, it's better to learn more” and such things, as A TRUTH, and the problem these days with that word “stupid” is actually, that if a child believes they are stupid, they will stop learning, and be very unhappy. Autism is caused usually, by the media reporting on wars, famines, diseases, tragedies on and on, and the little child, hearing of these things AND not old enough to DO anything about that, cannot cope and some will decide to quit on learning (since it's all bad news), and then become autistic, unwilling to learn, uninterested in life, and so forth.

Children do NOT need to be discouraged from learning. They need to be encouraged with words of truthfulness, with wisdom, and with LOVE.

One of the reasons for this, is illustrated adequately, by this:

If your child has a group of friends and keeps on calling them “my gang”, then later, even years later, is walking home from school or from the shops, and someone calls out: “hey, do you want to join my gang?” the child will not always know, immediately, that the person calling out is a REAL gang member, trouble every time. The best advice in this case, and your children should know about this, too, is: KEEP ON WALKING, DON'T LOOK AT THE PERSON TALKING, KEEP WALKING, IGNORE HIM OR THEM TOTALLY, and do NOT talk to them. Show not the slightest interest in what they say, they are BIG TROUBLE. Do not nod or shake the head, just ignore them. Mostly, they will lose interest and look around for the next victim.

The tv show “The Simpsons” has ruined the lives of untold babies, with the lie about “stupid”, even though some fool thought it was ok to say it through a whole show and then to say later on: “but, I just realised my baby is not stupid”. There is NO learning in that, some babies cried and cried over that lie, even just overhearing the tv. It is NOT ok to make sweeping, negative, wrong things up, to show them over and over, and to be wrong all through a show and then to say: “but, it worked out in the end”: it is NOT good enough. If the tv show scriptwriters were all that intelligent, why didn't they make the programmes positive and in some way educational, politely, decently and kindly? Bad language, too, is a bad example that can work it's way into another person's life and language, do NOT allow your child, especially the children, to use “swear words”. Even the mention of th word “swear” is forbidden, because in Court, when that is used and a foreign person hears of it, can cause real racial problems, unrest and worse. It is NOT ok to use that word and worse. The only reason I mention this, is to let people know: that word and anything worse, is NOT approved of. In fact, it can ruin a person's brain chemistry, then the people's IQ goes down and down. It can take only three days to repent of those words, all of them. Have you noticed that those whom are pure are better students, more like top of the class than the others? This makes it very important for parents to help their children learn: be pure, be innocent, be truthful, be respectful. Do the right thing, not the wrong thing. Your children need those reminders, to help them have a successful life.

Those drugs ruin the mind, have you noticed, people, that when a person starts those drugs, and is a teen or school child, that their marks or grades at school drop rapidly, down? They are ruining their own brain-chemistry. And they don't only ruin themselves, with hardly a good idea to speak of, they also ruin others lives, too, they ruin the family relationship, they ruin others and when they can, they will lure others into the habit, even their old friends, just to make money dishonestly, to feed their own habit, and this is typical of gangs. The first puff of marijuana or other, is the very start of a downhill road and unhappiness is their secret, they will say “you will be happy on this”, but they don't say what they all know: often, later, they will cry themselves to sleep, alone, and they won't say it because they want the money for the next lot of drugs to buy and sell.

And the gangs tell lies, some even call lies “good”, yet, telling lies is not only prohibited, banned, in the Holy Bible, because telling even one lie is later, unhappy for the person telling the lie. The bigger the lie, the more sorrow there is for the liar, later on, so it's not “just a rule”, it's there in the Bible to caution people, since The Lord Jesus Christ is wise and did NOT want others to suffer like that, so lies are banned: this ban is KIND to the soul, and good. Sometimes, silence is much better. The more people deceived by the lie, the worse the suffering is to the liar. And every lie causes suffering to the one telling the lie, until the debt is paid and then forgiveness can happen. Lies are unhealthy for the brain-chemistry and therefore the thinking is not as good as before the lie, and keeps getting worse, the more lies, deceits, cunningness and sins happen, longer of a "sentence".

The sooner your child is told this, the better: groups of friends are NOT to be called gangs, since gangs are bad.
If the gangs start using the words "groups of friends" to themselves, they cannot prove it because:
1. They are drug-dealers and addicts. The wiser and better of people do NOT deal or take that sort of drug, it's NOT ok to take that sort of drug, at all, not even one puff of marijuana.
2. They are not real genuine friends of each other, they secretly hate each others.
3. If some gang members say "join our group of friends" the wise child can say, if he or she must talk to them: "I have my own group of friends": better to walk past with no talking, no shaking and nodding of the head, just carry on walking and think "I have my own group of friends and don't need those others".

I give you my LOVE, humanity, realise that most children are born WISE, they cannot talk at first only because it takes time practice for the soul to learn how to move the mouth and tongue and throat around properly.

Generally speaking, this is true: BABIES ARE FROM HEAVEN. They are not sinners (it's not a sin to be born, they have NOT sinned at birth, please, call them what they are: innocent).

Finally, advice to those parents whose child is autistic. Please use Bach Flower Remedies (pronouned “bark” phonetically), buy them from a Natural Health Shop, it's a must for an autistic child, to have the “Clematis type” of Bach Flower Remedies, some White Chestnut and especially Star of Bethlehem. These things will help them, yet do give them an interest, something outside of the self, to give them something POSITIVE to do. Decent and educational picture-books are recommended to them. Do give them attention, read good books to your child, and do NOT quit on your baby. Your little children often, do want to learn, so teach them arithmetic, even from a very young age, they do like learning innocent things. Be kind, please, please, be kind. Most religions and spiritual groups teach this same thing: “be kind to each other”. That could even prevent a war. And as a song says, “as far as possible, be on good terms with all men” (men in this case meaning all people).